What else do I have to offer, but stories? I live alone. I opted out of having children. Whenever I ponder Death – rarely from a place of darkness; more often from a pragmatic, matter-of-fact heart – my hope is that I’ll leave the world a plethora of poetry, photos, memories of my heartfelt awkwardness, and yes, stories.
How do you share who you are, take in others; how do you express and connect? I pushed my limits this year – still feeling deeply blue after long stretches of online exchanges in lieu of actual human company, yet feeling cranky and depleted after too much time spent with high-energy, well-meaning but wildly talkative folks.
Who but you knows how to balance the energy of good people with the replenishment of solitude?
Who but you feels a story coming on and decides when and how it must be told – in a text, through speaking, via the arts, by way of carrier pigeon?
Yet, seemingly, not all women and men who live alone strive for such a balance, nor do they share their stories.
Singletons who appear to isolate themselves: are they living the Living Alone stereotype of being antisocial, depressed, ill, hoarding? Or are they content, quiet?
And when their lives are over, what then? “…how difficult it is to say ‘goodbye’ to these elusive people, often the most shy and reclusive members of our society, when we’ve never really known how to say ‘hello’.”
Please join me in celebrating our own vulnerable sharing of stories as you read Jacqueline’s thoughts on singleton isolation in the U.K.: here. As a writer, mother, and wife, she’s looking out for singletons in the sweetest, most profound way. Thank you, Jacqueline. (I also invite you to visit the main page of her blog, the crone and enjoy her words across many topics. Plus, the photo of her during her punk years is fucking golden! http://thecrone.co.uk/ if the above links do not work.)
Warmth, light and love to all readers and writers and balance strivers this time of year and always.
You are not alone,
P.S. I apologize if you received a ghost post yesterday in the Feed or by e-mail. I am still learning how to share others’ blog writings, and I deleted my first attempt.
This is part of the Who but You? project, a singlehood series with an initial focus on people who live alone. The project is gradually expanding to also include stories of single (i.e., not married) humans in a variety of living situations. Who but you knows how to be in this world?
Join the Who but You? project: e-mail your story, prose, poetry, art and/or photos about singlehood and/or living alone to email@example.com for consideration. All ages, all countries/cities, all singlehood living situations – from co-housing to living alone, single parent to child free.
For more information: https://whobutyouproject.wordpress.com/who-but-you-series/.
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